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Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First

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This article explores the ideas behind “Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First”, the 2021 book by licensed therapist John Kim. Written after Kim's own divorce, the book argues that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. It looks at why people chase validation through partners, how to recognize and break old relationship patterns, how to grieve an ending honestly, and how to build a life around your own values. The message is not against relationships: whether you are single, dating or partnered, knowing yourself first makes every connection healthier.

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thought / θɔt /verb

To have an opinion or belief about something

I thought it was a good idea.

believeimagineconsider

enjoy / ɪnˈdʒɔɪ /verb

To experience pleasure or satisfaction

Enjoy the sunshine.

relishsavorappreciate

truly / ˈtruːli /adverb

In a truthful or genuine way

Doing things you like without others around lets you think about what truly makes you happy.

honestlygenuinelysincerely

Spending / ˈspɛndɪŋ /verb

The act of using resources, especially money or time

Spending habits.

consumptionexpenditure

things / θɪŋz /noun

Activities or actions

Doing things you like...

activitiesactionstasksdeeds

redefine / ˌriːdɪˈfaɪn /verb

To define again or differently

Redefine success on your own terms.

defineredefinition

guide / ɡaɪd /verb

To show or influence the way

This information should guide you in your choice.

leaddirect

time / taɪm /noun

A period of time

Enjoy time by yourself.

momentdurationinterval

understand / ˌʌndərˈstænd /verb

To perceive the meaning of (something)

It's important to understand the instructions before starting.

comprehendgraspinterpret

the outdoors / ðə ˌaʊtˈdɔːrz /adverb

The external environment; the open air

You might realize you love being outdoors.

outsidenaturewilderness

realize / ˈriːəlaɪz /verb

Become fully aware of (something) as a fact; understand clearly

You might realize you love being outdoors.

understandcomprehendgraspfathom

around / əˈraʊnd /adverb

In the vicinity; nearby

Doing things you like without others around lets you think about what truly makes you happy.

nearbypresent

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